Human existence requires mutual cooperation,love and respect.
Ever since we step in this world, we become a part of a family where we are loved and taken care of.
Gradually as we grow older we learn to create relationships on our own.
We call them friends.
Friends and family play the biggest role in our lives.
They are the very basis of our survival because we are emotionally attached to them.
Every relationship that we build in our lives brings forth arguments, fights and misconceptions too.
Survival of a relationship depends not only on the basis of love between two people.
Altercations are a very important part of every lasting relationship.
They are and should be a part of every relationship.
There are basically two kinds of arguments.
One that is verbal and the other that is mental. The mental argument where our mind is literally pissed off for a prolonged period of time over loved one.
We still behave normally trying to ignore whatever action of that person irritated us.
We try to maintain patience and control ourselves.
But one fine day, when we lose control over ourselves,we burst out.
So the mental argument which we were having for a quite a long period of time at last transforms into a verbal one only.
At some point of our lives we are all corrected that we should think before we speak to anybody.
In fact we are all aware of it.
At the same time we experience something very contrary too.
When anger overpowers us, no matter how much we are try to control,we do end up not thinking before we speak.
Maybe it just doesn't want to happen during that time.
Or maybe the tongue goes out of control only during that very point of time.
The main reason why we end up using harsh words when enraged is that we expected that person to never do something that he or she might have done to you.
When we love somebody or care for them, prior to it , we create expectations from that person.
So when this imaginary expectation is not fulfilled we start becoming mentally damaged.
This damage is a gradual process.
We give more and more chances to them and when we realise that still our expectations are not getting fulfilled, this mental damage ruins us.
This damage leads to anger and frustation.
This frustation has lethal effects.
We end up saying things we could never have imagined we could have said to them.
We end up making decisions and passing judgements ,we wouldn't have dreamt of also in our worst nightmares
Most importantly, we just END UP.
The way we accuse the other person using cruel and harsh words can mentally ruin the other person.
He or she can start doubting his own self.
He or she might start feeling weak about himself.
He or she even might not believe it at first that the person whom he or she loved could accuse him or her so bad.
The main reason why this person will get mentally damaged is that he or she might not even know what was his or her mistake.
He might not know why he received such a harsh reaction.
He might try to think and identify his mistakes a thousand times,but all his efforts obviously go in vain.
He feels helpless and is left moarning in pain.
It is human nature that when we love somebody and care for them, expectations do come up.
This is very much obvious.
Nobody can deny it.
Does that mean the person who couldn't fulfill his or her loved one's expectations is to blamed?
Consequently, he or she becomes a victim to their loved one's anger.
Was it right?
Did that person know what his or her loved one was expecting from him or her?
I mean, do we humans have the superpower of reading each other's minds?
Is it like we read their minds and we get to know that he or she is expecting this from me and we got to fulfill it somehow?
Is this possible?
Certainly, not.
So does this mean that the person who was not able to fulfill the expectations didn't love or care for that person?
Maybe he or she was doing it her way.
It is not that he or she didn't love her.
Each and every person has her own way of expressing love.
Each and every person has her right to express it their own way.
It is we humans that expect the hell out of somebody.
It is normal to expect but haven't we heard that more of anything is bad.
Why cant't we humans learn to be grateful?
Why are we so selfish?
Maybe because we are so occupied with the idea of "i,me,mine" and so no matter what happens our expectations have to be fulfilled.
And when they are not we react furiously in front of the person we claim to care for the most!
Maybe, how that person was not expecting something from his or her beloved one, similarly, even the other person couldn't have dreamt of of such a reaction from that person.
Who played the role of a Satan here ?
EXPECTATIONS.
Ultimately, the result is, obviously negative.
It is painful for both of them.
Words play an important role in every kind of a relationship
They have a huge impact on the lives of the individuals.
Sometimes some words said can leave a painful bruise in our heart.
The entire picture flashes in our mind with the exact words said.
the old conversations are remembered time and again.
No matter how much we try it becomes a difficult task.
Regret comes in especially in the part of that person who behaved badly.
After overthinking over our mistakes, we all come to a conclusion.
accepting our own mistake needs courage.
Apology should be done as fast as possible
This is because the longer the other person is left in pain, the more and more his or her heart gets ripped finely.
More and more blood oozes out.
It may become more more traumatic for that person.
That one person whom we were most comfortable with,
We now feel anxious to even approach them, so diametric!
The next best to be done is to give time to each other.
During this process, we gradually learn to respect differences.
Forgiveness might come, but do we humans really forget?
There can be two opinions regarding this:
One where we do forgive, but because the damage caused is a permanent one, we do not end up forgetting.
Secondly, where time plays the role of healer. It effectively helps to cure the damage done and revival becomes possible.
Neverthless, whatever be the result, efforts must be made from both the sides for effectively reviving the relationship.
They always end up giving positive results.
Everyone appreciates efforts.
Expectations and words can be dangerous.
A slight overdose of it and the entire relationship nutured with love, care and respect gets ruined.
we should learn adjust our expectations properly and never use words that can mentally harass someone.
Remember, connecting to people can be easy.
Maintaining it throughout needs courage and most importantly patience.
And once its damaged, revival becomes the most difficult task.
Relationships are beautiful creations.
Never let it die and unnatural death.
- By Jyotika.
Maybe because we are so occupied with the idea of "i,me,mine" and so no matter what happens our expectations have to be fulfilled.
And when they are not we react furiously in front of the person we claim to care for the most!
Maybe, how that person was not expecting something from his or her beloved one, similarly, even the other person couldn't have dreamt of of such a reaction from that person.
Who played the role of a Satan here ?
EXPECTATIONS.
Ultimately, the result is, obviously negative.
It is painful for both of them.
Words play an important role in every kind of a relationship
They have a huge impact on the lives of the individuals.
Sometimes some words said can leave a painful bruise in our heart.
The entire picture flashes in our mind with the exact words said.
the old conversations are remembered time and again.
No matter how much we try it becomes a difficult task.
Regret comes in especially in the part of that person who behaved badly.
After overthinking over our mistakes, we all come to a conclusion.
accepting our own mistake needs courage.
Apology should be done as fast as possible
This is because the longer the other person is left in pain, the more and more his or her heart gets ripped finely.
More and more blood oozes out.
It may become more more traumatic for that person.
That one person whom we were most comfortable with,
We now feel anxious to even approach them, so diametric!
The next best to be done is to give time to each other.
During this process, we gradually learn to respect differences.
Forgiveness might come, but do we humans really forget?
There can be two opinions regarding this:
One where we do forgive, but because the damage caused is a permanent one, we do not end up forgetting.
Secondly, where time plays the role of healer. It effectively helps to cure the damage done and revival becomes possible.
Neverthless, whatever be the result, efforts must be made from both the sides for effectively reviving the relationship.
They always end up giving positive results.
Everyone appreciates efforts.
Expectations and words can be dangerous.
A slight overdose of it and the entire relationship nutured with love, care and respect gets ruined.
we should learn adjust our expectations properly and never use words that can mentally harass someone.
Remember, connecting to people can be easy.
Maintaining it throughout needs courage and most importantly patience.
And once its damaged, revival becomes the most difficult task.
Relationships are beautiful creations.
Never let it die and unnatural death.
- By Jyotika.
